"Tone Argument" and the Heart of the Matter
"...the tone of a statement is independent of the content of the statement in question, and calling attention to it distracts from the issue at hand..."
I like these two epigraphs to the entry:
"Just because you sound polite, doesn't mean your words aren't hurtful. Just because you sound acerbic, doesn't mean your words aren't kind." -- Comrade Squinky
"If you tread on someone's toes, and they tell you to get off, then get off their toes. Don't tell them to 'ask nicely'." -- Geeksophical